Dating Tips for Men, Keys to Seduction
Sometimes the key to picking up a girl and dating her is not screwing up. Most men seem to mess up every possible situation. We talk about ourselves, exagerate, we don't listen, we dress like bums, and we don't pay for dinner. Half the battle is not to screw up. Pick up artists don't screw up
We think women want looks and money
Not True. Women are attracted to how a man makes them feel. Sure if you look like a troll that grills squirrel under a bridge, she will be repulsed. And yes there are the gold diggers that you want to avoid. Learning the attraction principles of women is key, not looks and money. The player knows the attraction principles.
If you understand the keys of seduction you hold the power as if you had all the looks and money in the world.
Taking control, humor, dance, chivalry, and adapting to different women like a chameleon on a rock will pay spades in your quest for whatever girl you want.
That said, obviously, looks can help. We are not all blessed with looks like Brad Pit so we need to counter this with preperation. Money can help too, this we can control, I'll talk about how I've made my money later.
Being unprepared
Yes, you need to be prepared! How many times have you been in a situation, seen a pretty lady and said, "I wish I had something to say". And in the amount of time it took me to write that sentence you just broke a golden rule. As soon as you see a woman and she sees you, the clock starts.
If you don’t approach immediately, the situation becomes awkward. She realizes you are not an alpha male, and she moves on. You’ve blown another opportunity.
Be prepared. Your body, your hygiene, your clothes, your opening lines. She will notice. Learn eye contact and body language. You need to know when to kiss her and how. Not only will preparation make your life so much easier, you will dust your lame competition. The pick up artist is always prepared.
Not getting help
Yes I’m trying to promote my own ass, I admit. But why not listen to the pros? Listen, put me on the golf course and I will hit the guy behind me off the skull, but stick me in a venue with hot pussy and I’ll blow your mind.
My point being is admit your dating skills could use some help, and reach out and get some. I know it’s a subject that is hard to do, but hey, I won’t judge you. Just don’t judge my golf game! I and the pros that join me, can change your life.
Don’t be an open book
Women need mystery. Don’t expose your feelings like she is you’re psychologist. She’s not. Don’t let her label you. Ask the questions and listen. When she asks, be a little vague. If she can’t figure you out it will drive her crazy. Women need to know things about a man. Even more powerful is have traits of varying personalities. Act crazy one minute and be that mature, sophisticated guy the next. The player is always mysterious.
To follow up
The pick up artist rarely screws up. By avoiding these mistakes that men make with women and re-inventing yourself with these web pages, you can change your love life, and in doing so change your entire life. Think about it. I hold the power to teach you how to get any available girl. You hold the power to listen. Your call.
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Friday, March 18, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Now That I'm Single Where The Heck Do I Meet Women?
Where To Meet Women, I've Got Some Better Ideas
You're a single middle aged guy, maybe recently divorced, and ready to get back on the horse (no pun intended). Where do you go to meet women? To the bar you say! Wrong, well at least at first. Come on, get your feet wet. A bar on a Friday or Saturday night sounds like a great place to meet women but think about it. Women know that all guys are out to hit on them, they've got their guards up and they are ready to do battle!
So Mr. Gladiator unless your skills are honed to the max, you're gonna go down. That's not pretty. You don't need that blow to your confidence, at least not yet. Not to say that the bar scene won't work for you, it may, but I have much better ideas.
Try something new
How about salsa dancing, a cooking class, an alpine adventure, white water rafting or even a car show. The point here is to get yourself out there and be social. Do this in a non intimidating social environment that doesn't trigger a girl's "I'm getting hit on radar". This is the key.
Years ago I was using all my resources on Friday and Saturday night at the bars and clubs. I figured out I was only putting eight hours a week into my social life. I was compartmentalizing ( wow big word for me) my social life. Work was work, grocery shopping was buying food. And Xmas shopping was buying presents...nothing more.
I changed, I said what if I make all my usual dull activities and make them all into social events! It worked, man did it work. Suddenly my eight hours turned into forty hours. I was dressing up to go grocery shopping for Pete's sake!
In Conclusion
Guys my point is there are so many better places to meet women than the usual bars and watering holes. Try some new hobbies that may interest you, and join some new groups. Also when you're doing the everyday mundane tasks try turning them into social events. Loose the sweats and the ball hat and act like your going out. Try using a little eye contact and say "excuse me" and ask a question to a girl. The results will amaze you.
You're a single middle aged guy, maybe recently divorced, and ready to get back on the horse (no pun intended). Where do you go to meet women? To the bar you say! Wrong, well at least at first. Come on, get your feet wet. A bar on a Friday or Saturday night sounds like a great place to meet women but think about it. Women know that all guys are out to hit on them, they've got their guards up and they are ready to do battle!
So Mr. Gladiator unless your skills are honed to the max, you're gonna go down. That's not pretty. You don't need that blow to your confidence, at least not yet. Not to say that the bar scene won't work for you, it may, but I have much better ideas.
Try something new
How about salsa dancing, a cooking class, an alpine adventure, white water rafting or even a car show. The point here is to get yourself out there and be social. Do this in a non intimidating social environment that doesn't trigger a girl's "I'm getting hit on radar". This is the key.
Years ago I was using all my resources on Friday and Saturday night at the bars and clubs. I figured out I was only putting eight hours a week into my social life. I was compartmentalizing ( wow big word for me) my social life. Work was work, grocery shopping was buying food. And Xmas shopping was buying presents...nothing more.
I changed, I said what if I make all my usual dull activities and make them all into social events! It worked, man did it work. Suddenly my eight hours turned into forty hours. I was dressing up to go grocery shopping for Pete's sake!
In Conclusion
Guys my point is there are so many better places to meet women than the usual bars and watering holes. Try some new hobbies that may interest you, and join some new groups. Also when you're doing the everyday mundane tasks try turning them into social events. Loose the sweats and the ball hat and act like your going out. Try using a little eye contact and say "excuse me" and ask a question to a girl. The results will amaze you.
Gregg Michaelsen is an expert EzineArticles Author and the owner of Dating Tips for Guys which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience. If you liked this article, please come visit me at Squidoo and Dating Tips for Guys. |
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Go Ugly Early Or Shoot For The Stars!
Dating Tips for Guys, Keys to Seduction
I got asked this dating tip for guys question the other day, this time posed as a serious question. All these years and finally, someone wanted an answer...huh?
Here are my thoughts.
Experience and What you Perceive
If you have limited dating women experience than go for an "average girl." Not because she is average but because you’re inexperienced. If you go for a "ten" than you will be nervous, your game will fall apart and you will fail.
If you are experienced dating women than why go for average. You want to be with a "ten" so go for a ten. I find no joy in getting a girl I don’t find attractive. Furthermore my game is off when I go for average. I’m just not into it and this becomes blatantly evident to the "average girl."
Define What is Average and What is a Ten?
Great question. This is perception. When an amateur starts off he might perceive a ten to be what someone else perceives to be a five. As his skills and confidence improves what was once a ten is now a six. For me, a ten used to be a hot body and a beautiful face. Intelligence didn’t matter. I would wake up with a girl dumber than a brick and that was ok. Now my ten is an eight or nine but needs to have a brain larger than a squirrel. Try to find a ten with a hot body, brain and a beautiful face and I’ll show you a flying pig.
You see it’s all what a person perceives to be hot, ugly or average. Remember you need something to compare. A control if you will. If a guy has never had a serious relationship than how does he know what he wants or what he qualifies as hot or average?
Other guys will tell me they have high standards. Do they really? Or is this an excuse not to try to get the girls for fear of rejection?
This relates to women also. How do girls know if they are into older or younger guys if they have no experience with either one. Or if they did once, it sucked, and they used this as their only control.
The "Ten"
The ten is in your mind, and always will be. The ten is always illusive and should be. What I thought to be a ten, years ago, is not anymore. She was the one that I couldn’t dream of possibly approaching, she was drop dead gorgeous. This girl is my average everyday hook up on par with me today. Not because I’m a better looking guy, I’m not, or have more money, I do, but because my perceptions on life and all my experiences have changed me.
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Then realty sets in. You walk into your bedroom she’s in full drool, bad breath, and let’s out a fart. Her face screams for make up. Is that cellulose I see? You feel cheated as this was your ten you fantasied about for two years before you finally landed the bitch.
Whoops, I digress.
To go ugly early or shoot for the stars is all based on your realty, experiences, values and how you perceive women. Now you can make the decision.
Please visit me and read all the free stuff on my website Dating Tips For Guys and Ezine Articles
I got asked this dating tip for guys question the other day, this time posed as a serious question. All these years and finally, someone wanted an answer...huh?
Here are my thoughts.
Experience and What you Perceive
If you have limited dating women experience than go for an "average girl." Not because she is average but because you’re inexperienced. If you go for a "ten" than you will be nervous, your game will fall apart and you will fail.
If you are experienced dating women than why go for average. You want to be with a "ten" so go for a ten. I find no joy in getting a girl I don’t find attractive. Furthermore my game is off when I go for average. I’m just not into it and this becomes blatantly evident to the "average girl."
Define What is Average and What is a Ten?
Great question. This is perception. When an amateur starts off he might perceive a ten to be what someone else perceives to be a five. As his skills and confidence improves what was once a ten is now a six. For me, a ten used to be a hot body and a beautiful face. Intelligence didn’t matter. I would wake up with a girl dumber than a brick and that was ok. Now my ten is an eight or nine but needs to have a brain larger than a squirrel. Try to find a ten with a hot body, brain and a beautiful face and I’ll show you a flying pig.
You see it’s all what a person perceives to be hot, ugly or average. Remember you need something to compare. A control if you will. If a guy has never had a serious relationship than how does he know what he wants or what he qualifies as hot or average?
Other guys will tell me they have high standards. Do they really? Or is this an excuse not to try to get the girls for fear of rejection?
This relates to women also. How do girls know if they are into older or younger guys if they have no experience with either one. Or if they did once, it sucked, and they used this as their only control.
The "Ten"
The ten is in your mind, and always will be. The ten is always illusive and should be. What I thought to be a ten, years ago, is not anymore. She was the one that I couldn’t dream of possibly approaching, she was drop dead gorgeous. This girl is my average everyday hook up on par with me today. Not because I’m a better looking guy, I’m not, or have more money, I do, but because my perceptions on life and all my experiences have changed me.
For more Keys to Seduction Tips please join me on Article Alley and learn How to Get the Girls
Then realty sets in. You walk into your bedroom she’s in full drool, bad breath, and let’s out a fart. Her face screams for make up. Is that cellulose I see? You feel cheated as this was your ten you fantasied about for two years before you finally landed the bitch.
Whoops, I digress.
To go ugly early or shoot for the stars is all based on your realty, experiences, values and how you perceive women. Now you can make the decision.
Please visit me and read all the free stuff on my website Dating Tips For Guys and Ezine Articles
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