Where To Meet Women, I've Got Some Better Ideas
You're a single middle aged guy, maybe recently divorced, and ready to get back on the horse (no pun intended). Where do you go to meet women? To the bar you say! Wrong, well at least at first. Come on, get your feet wet. A bar on a Friday or Saturday night sounds like a great place to meet women but think about it. Women know that all guys are out to hit on them, they've got their guards up and they are ready to do battle!
So Mr. Gladiator unless your skills are honed to the max, you're gonna go down. That's not pretty. You don't need that blow to your confidence, at least not yet. Not to say that the bar scene won't work for you, it may, but I have much better ideas.
Try something new
How about salsa dancing, a cooking class, an alpine adventure, white water rafting or even a car show. The point here is to get yourself out there and be social. Do this in a non intimidating social environment that doesn't trigger a girl's "I'm getting hit on radar". This is the key.
Years ago I was using all my resources on Friday and Saturday night at the bars and clubs. I figured out I was only putting eight hours a week into my social life. I was compartmentalizing ( wow big word for me) my social life. Work was work, grocery shopping was buying food. And Xmas shopping was buying presents...nothing more.
I changed, I said what if I make all my usual dull activities and make them all into social events! It worked, man did it work. Suddenly my eight hours turned into forty hours. I was dressing up to go grocery shopping for Pete's sake!
In Conclusion
Guys my point is there are so many better places to meet women than the usual bars and watering holes. Try some new hobbies that may interest you, and join some new groups. Also when you're doing the everyday mundane tasks try turning them into social events. Loose the sweats and the ball hat and act like your going out. Try using a little eye contact and say "excuse me" and ask a question to a girl. The results will amaze you.
You're a single middle aged guy, maybe recently divorced, and ready to get back on the horse (no pun intended). Where do you go to meet women? To the bar you say! Wrong, well at least at first. Come on, get your feet wet. A bar on a Friday or Saturday night sounds like a great place to meet women but think about it. Women know that all guys are out to hit on them, they've got their guards up and they are ready to do battle!
So Mr. Gladiator unless your skills are honed to the max, you're gonna go down. That's not pretty. You don't need that blow to your confidence, at least not yet. Not to say that the bar scene won't work for you, it may, but I have much better ideas.
Try something new
How about salsa dancing, a cooking class, an alpine adventure, white water rafting or even a car show. The point here is to get yourself out there and be social. Do this in a non intimidating social environment that doesn't trigger a girl's "I'm getting hit on radar". This is the key.
Years ago I was using all my resources on Friday and Saturday night at the bars and clubs. I figured out I was only putting eight hours a week into my social life. I was compartmentalizing ( wow big word for me) my social life. Work was work, grocery shopping was buying food. And Xmas shopping was buying presents...nothing more.
I changed, I said what if I make all my usual dull activities and make them all into social events! It worked, man did it work. Suddenly my eight hours turned into forty hours. I was dressing up to go grocery shopping for Pete's sake!
In Conclusion
Guys my point is there are so many better places to meet women than the usual bars and watering holes. Try some new hobbies that may interest you, and join some new groups. Also when you're doing the everyday mundane tasks try turning them into social events. Loose the sweats and the ball hat and act like your going out. Try using a little eye contact and say "excuse me" and ask a question to a girl. The results will amaze you.
Gregg Michaelsen is an expert EzineArticles Author and the owner of Dating Tips for Guys which provides online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience. If you liked this article, please come visit me at Squidoo and Dating Tips for Guys. |
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